Ashley, in my footsteps

Last Saturday, 29th August 2008, Ashley woke up asking to get her ears pierced. This is the second attempt. Last December, I took her to Poh Kong in Seremban and had her ears pierced. She had been asking for earrings because she was always fascinated with the dangling earrings that I put on for church or outings. (I LOVE earrings and I collect them as my hobby). She was happy with her star shaped earrings but clever mummy here took them out for washing after 1 month. Since then she refused to let me put them back and needless to say, the piercing sealed back.

I thought of giving her some time before trying to get her ears pierced again. Next Chinese New Year was my target. But last Saturday, she just asked to get her ears pierced! Since she asked for it, I was only too happy to fulfill her request. She was all calm and steady when we reached the salon. She was swirling in her chair and picked her pink earrings all by herself. Then, the ladies took out the piercing guns. She started to well up but still didn't make a sound. I distracted her by asking her to tell me stories about her crocodiles. Btw, Ashley LOVES her crocodiles and she has an extensive collection of crocodile toys. Then "pop" and her ears were pierced. She cried out and was crying non-stop for a good 10 minutes. We tried to soothe her by bribing her with chocolate, and took her to "kedai 2 ringgit" to look for another toy crocodile. After 10 minutes, she stopped crying and told us that it doesn't hurt anymore and that she doesn't need another toy crocodile! So, I guess it must have been real tears and pain there for a good 10 minutes.

We did buy her more crocodile toys. She is very pleased with her earrings this round and she asked my mum to buy her a teddy bear shaped earring when I called home to tell them the "news". So, for Christmas, Ashley is getting herself a pair of pooh bear earrings from Poh Kong. She was so brave through the ordeal and so matured in her response to the whole thing. Once again, I am very proud of my baby who is turning into a little lady day by day.

I am missing those girlie nights.

This week in particular, I am missing my girlie nights very much. I remember those days before Ashley came into the picture, I would normally hang out with my girlfriends once or twice a week. We will have dinner together, window shop (always ended up buying something of course), exercised or jogged together, went for movies or just "lepak" in one of our houses and chat until late at night. It was so fun and refreshing because one gets to live out the "girlish-ness" though we were all full grown young adults and married.

I am not indicating that I regretted having Ashley or that she is a burden to me. It is just one of those honest desires I have at this particular time. I don't really have anyone to hang out with for girlie nights now. Perhaps because of my current phase of being a stay home mum to a young child, most of my friends are in similar stage. I understand that it is hard to leave one's child with someone else, or even missing out spending time with one's hubby, or there are still 1001 chores to get done. Living in the suburb and having all the shops closing at 6pm don't really help too. Of course the church organizes ladies' night out, tea parties, craft nights etc., but those aren't the girlie nights I was hoping for. The crazy and fun side of me is just waiting to come out!

I am a little frustrated and missing Malaysia (where I still have single and "happening" friends to hang out with) a teeny weeny bit right now. Hopefully, I will get some girlie pampering tomorrow and it might cure my "sickness". If not, I shall have to wait for a couple more years when my girl will be "old" enough to have a girlie outing with her "still hot" mamma!